Rachel, I enjoyed that franknews interview so much. I had a thought when you were talking about misinterpreting that initial friction with someone as meaning you don't like them only to realise it's just that actually they got under your skin or saw you in some way that made you feel uncomfortable, and that that's actually a good thing! I thought that these days maybe people are also misinterpreting that frisson as "red flags" and a sign that my "nervous system" is "rejecting" this person because discomfort apparently now always means some sort of trauma is being triggered and this person is bad for you. This isn't really a well expressed thought, but it's one I had in the context of it being a shame the important connections one might miss out on from misinterpreting that initial "dislike"
I have been thinking the same thing re: text-based communication for a while! You should read 'Cold Intimacies: The Making of Emotional Capitalism' by Eva Illouz - it's quite old (2007) but has a whole section on how technology has resulted in the 'textualization of subjectivity' which is v interesting!
Rachel, I enjoyed that franknews interview so much. I had a thought when you were talking about misinterpreting that initial friction with someone as meaning you don't like them only to realise it's just that actually they got under your skin or saw you in some way that made you feel uncomfortable, and that that's actually a good thing! I thought that these days maybe people are also misinterpreting that frisson as "red flags" and a sign that my "nervous system" is "rejecting" this person because discomfort apparently now always means some sort of trauma is being triggered and this person is bad for you. This isn't really a well expressed thought, but it's one I had in the context of it being a shame the important connections one might miss out on from misinterpreting that initial "dislike"
I have been thinking the same thing re: text-based communication for a while! You should read 'Cold Intimacies: The Making of Emotional Capitalism' by Eva Illouz - it's quite old (2007) but has a whole section on how technology has resulted in the 'textualization of subjectivity' which is v interesting!